How To Text A Girl Whose Number You Just Got

What To Text A Girl Whose Number You Just Got

Like it or not, texting has now become the first step in dating. Nearly every relationship begins with some form of texting, meaning that this becomes the foundation for whatever comes next. If a woman enjoys texting you, she’ll be much more open to the possibility of going further with you.

Why is it so important?

For one thing, texting is now an easy way for women to screen the men they go on dates with. If a girl gives you her number at a bar and says “text me,” she’s opening the door for you to show her what you’ve got. If she doesn’t like the goods, she has no commitment. It’s through texting that she will determine whether you’re a guy she wants to go on a date with. Once a girl gives you her phone number to text her, she’s pretty much yours to lose!

Some girls actually choose not to get an outgoing call plan because either they text or the guy calls them. The rules have changed drastically in the last few years. That’s why it’s so important for you to learn how to be a good texter if you want to date woman. 

Before you text a girl you need to decide what your objective is. If you are reading this then the chances are that you are attracted to this girl and would like to go on a date with her. Getting a single girl to go on a date with you is pretty easy. She liked you enough to give you her number, now all you have to do is show her that you aren’t a stalker and display a few characteristics that girls are attracted to. (Confidence, sense of humour, independent, trust worthy, exciting, adventurous, mysterious)

I’ll get into how you can display those characteristics a little bit later, but first lets do some more intel.

If you just got her number then chances are that you both don’t know much about each other. Obviously there is some attraction there though or else she would not have agreed to give you her number. She did which basically means she is saying “here is your chance to show me what you’ve got”

She is giving you a small window of opportunity to impress her, and show her that you are different from other guys. If you start becoming boring, text her to much, appear like you are to interested in her then she is going to stop returning your texts.

To prevent this from happening you should keep your texts short, flirty, fun, and end the conversation first on your terms if possible when things are going well!

If your objective is to get a date with her, you need to be realistic in your expectations. Ask yourself how quickly would she be willing to go on a date with me. Maybe she just got out of a relationship and isn’t ready to date yet.

Another thing to ask yourself is when is the next time that you will see this girl? If you go out again next weekend will she be out? Is there a party coming up that you may see her at?

If so then you shouldn’t be in a rush to ask her out on a date. If you are going to see her within the next few weeks somewhere else then your objective when you text her may simply be to make her feel more attraction for you when that next encounter is!

The way that you do this is by only texting girls for 3 reasons. 1) to flirt with them 2) to ask them on a date. 3)to find out their plans or make plans

Do not text a girl just to try to have a conversation with them and get to know them over text. This is super boring for her. Most girls are going to have a few other guys that they are texting on and off so you need to stand out from these other guys.   If you text her to try to get to know her and have a conversation with her, then you aren’t going to stand out, and all she is going to think is that you have nothing else going on in your life because you are busy texting her all day and by doing this you will appear like someone who is super happy to be texting her all day which will take away all your power and put her in the power position. 

Instead only text her to flirt or to make plans and try to always end the conversation first on your own terms and while the conversation is going really good. This may mean that you are only going to text her 1 time in a week. However , having an enjoyable , short fun flirty  text conversation where you end the conversation first, while things are on a high note and she is enjoying it, and then not texting her back the entire week until the day you think you are going to run into each other will leave her with a way better impression of you then had you text her all week with boring stuff.

If things are going well in the conversation, and while you have some banter back and forth, you just end it and say something like “I’ve gotta run but I’ll text ya later in the week and see whats up. Later”

She is going to wonder all kinds of crazy things about you. First she is going to wonder where you had to go that you can’t talk to her.  It is after all a cell phone you take it everywhere. Then she is going to wonder why you had to leave and couldn’t continue talking even though you were having such a good convo. Then later as the week goes on and the days goes on she is going to wonder when you are going to text back and or if you are going to text back. After all you never specified a specific day that you would text her. You just said that you would later in the week.  Each day that goes by will build anticipation and attraction. Then when you do see her the next time, she is going to be super happy to see you since you had so much fun during your last little text exchange. and stopped texting her while things were going well, leaving her wanting more. 


Less is definitely more! This is way more effective then texting her all week. The guy who has been texting her all week is going to show up and she will know instantly that he is into her and isn’t a challenge for her. You on the other hand she won’t quite know what your deal was. You flirted with her a bit , but then didn’t feel the need to want to talk to her the rest of the week . There is a lot of unknown about you that she will want to figure out. Makes you much more challenging, confident and mysterious.

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Tommy Tavares

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